WE CAN CHOOSE.
Yep, we can choose the way we feel by analyzing the thoughts we have. Emotions and the thoughts that create them are a physical aspect of our bodies, not untamed territory. Something I like to discuss in my yoga classes is that we don’t have to feel what our body is telling us to feel. Our emotions don’t control what we think. WE CONTROL WHAT WE THINK.
Tony Robbins is one of my favorite life coaches because he explains this concept in a very simple way: the thoughts we have are ours alone and sometimes… they may be inaccurate. This word is what fuels this blog today: inaccurate.
If you are easily angered, or having constant thoughts of negativity, then maybe it’s time to step back and think logically about why you are experiencing these certain emotions.
Many times, we can break down our thoughts into sections, or causes and effects to determine how we want to move forward. Changing the thought patterns you’ve developed over the years can help set you on a completely different emotional path. For instance choosing NOT to fight with your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend for a week. Try this: intentionally choose to shut off the quick-to-snap reactions or habits you’ve nurtured and watch your day to day experience change. Watch your relationship improve! Rather than let loose and remove all intention behind your thoughts, set boundaries. Thoughts manifest themselves into action/lack of action and become reality -don’t let your emotional habits determine in what direction your day will go.
Hold tight to your thoughts and you will begin to understand the control you truly have. Be intentional and monitor your thoughts like you’re studying for a college final exam. You’re the experiment, not the victim.
Questions to ask yourself:
1. How do I feel right now? Be very specific.
2. What caused me to feel this way? Don’t simply blame it on something or someone external.
3. How long do I want to feel this way for? It’s important to allow yourself to soak up the emotion, just don’t let it overtake you.
4. What is it that I’m forgetting to be grateful for in this moment? Gratitude heals the heart and gives us the power of perspective.
5. Will I laugh about this later? Laughter cures anger better than almost everything.
Last Tony quote I’ll leave you with: “It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you communicate what happens to yourself.”