How to redirect your career path today, without risking it all

So, how’s your career going? Be honest. Are you doing something you’ve always dreamt of doing? If so, NICE. That’s not easy.

OR – Are you someone who’s working in a position that makes you feel like crap every day? Perhaps your waking up with that flattening feeling of being stuck doing something that pays the bills, but doesn’t in any way speak to YOU as a person. It doesn’t align with your passions, your skills or even your ideas.

If you’re more like the latter, then maybe it’s time to re-evaulate your career. Just because you are doing what everyone else expects, or even working a job that pays pretty well, you still might not feel good about it. I’m not talking about a bad boss or annoying co-workers, I’m talking about a job that you know deep down is sucking the life out of you.

Maybe it’s time for a change. You might not know it yet, but you have the ability to wiggle your way into a career that you can truly feel good about each day, without losing your work ethic or even your pride. Keep reading.

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If you feel like a negative cliché for wanting to be an influencer, or a freelance photographer, or have the time to work from anywhere in the world, you’re not alone. Millennials nowadays are often being deemed reckless with their careers, in articles like the ones below:

The 5 Biggest Career Mistakes Made by Millennials | Inc.com

What Are Millennials Willing to Give Up for Their Careers? (Infographic)

5 things millennials are doing wrong when it comes to their careers …

What’s the problem with millennials in the workplace? – The Telegraph

This generation is either brave or stupid, but rarely anything in between. So why is that? Why is it that our career standards are either praised or insulted? Why are we called creative but lazy? If you think about it carefully, the difference between how our generation feels about a career path compared to how our parent’s felt, is simply the growth of technology and a loss of financial confidence.

In the 80s, sites like Upwork.com and Weworkremotely.com, didn’t exist. Our parents didn’t have the luxury of being choosey with their careers. Unless they stuck with what their 18-year-old selves decided, they were SOL. But to them, sticking to your commitments, pushing through the difficulty, and holding your ground for that retirement account was more important than feeling good about your job.

I’m not saying that retirement isn’t important. If you know me at all, you know I’m obsessed with setting my older self and family-to-be up for success. But what I’ve quickly learned, is that we millennials do not value working hard less than previous generations, we simply value the dollar a bit differently. What used to matter, now doesn’t seem attainable. Take buying a home. For most of us, it seems impossible at this stage. For instance, in 1980, the baby boomer generation paid a average of $76,400 for a home in the U.S. Today, the average cost for a home in the U.S. is $363,300, according to cencus.gov. So if buying a home not going to be affordable until we’re 60, why would we bother wanting it now?

Not only do we think we’ll never own a home, but we’re kicking off our career deep in debt. We imagine our poor grandkids will probably have to inherit our student loan debt because we sure as hell aren’t going to be able to pay it off. Student’s today are expected to pay an average of $37,000 each, and thats on the low end. Some students have hundreds of thousands of dollars to pay back… an beginning this year, some loans will include an average 5.05% interest rate. It’s no wonder that many of us throw our hands in the air and say, “f*** it.”

If you’re reading this going, “yep, that’s me” you’re in the right place. Many of us are living with this subtle doom, that no matter what, we’ll always be digging ourselves out. So what do we do about it? We make the best salary we can and try to live it up while we’re younger because God knows we’d rather live in the moment than continue treading water just to reduce the debt.

I’m definitely that person. Someone who’s spent their career fighting for a job I can feel proud of, and one that will allow me to do what I love most: travel. I knew exactly what I wanted, so I did my research, learned how to create a nice resume, and applied to the best TV network I knew: Discovery Channel. After somehow getting an internship in tv development, I got hired six months later. And of course, before I knew it my boss was leaving the company and I had to scramble for the next best gig.

So after going from network to network, I finally landed a traveling job with Yoga Journal. Dream job: check.

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But what happened when it ended? It was only a six month job, so what was I to do afterward? Was I to go work in a cubicle? Try to mash my creative skills into some predetermined job description and hope I don’t hate my job? In that moment, I hit a turning point. I had to decide to either risk being miserable at some desk job or work my ass off to get a freelance job that fit what I valued most. I think you can guess what happened next.

I didn’t give up. I emailed about 132 companies in the Seattle area and told them exactly what they could do differently on their social media pages to get a better ROI and cultivate stronger quality leads. This was the most tedious thing I think I’d ever done. But I was so hell bent on never working in a cubicle, that I didn’t care how long it took, the odds of getting a response were better and better with every email I sent.

After about 20 emails saying “no thanks” and the rest were utter silence, I finally got a job as a social media manager for a travel company. What was better? I could work remotely and be creative and strategic. Well, when your client doesn’t believe in paid media, things get tough. There are too many eyeballs online to expect growth organically, no matter how good your content is.

After my three month contract ended, I changed my approach and began traditionally applying to jobs in the Seattle area. I reached out to everyone I knew and hoped someone had something that sounded good. Truth be told, it didn’t work.

So again, I had to change my approach. You must be noticing a pattern here. I changed my approach so many times, applied to different jobs in different ways, emailed companies directly, edited my resume, did video applications, you name it, I tried it. I tried so many approaches until I landed a position that allowed me to travel, to hold myself responsible for my own work and to produce national television commercials… from my home town. Boom.

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But what does this all have to do with you? It’s an outline of the steps you can take to change your situation and feel proud of the direction your going.3 steps to

 

How to begin:

  1. Get clear on what exactly you want (most people have no idea and never figure it out)
  2. Take massive action (MASSIVE, not passive)
  3. Change your approach (1,000 times if you have to)

The biggest difficulty here is getting clear on what you want. If you don’t know what you really want, if you can’t see it clear as day in your head, then you’ll be puttering around grabbing at nothing. This is VITAL for success. You shouldn’t say, “I guess I’m good at X” or “I like Y, that might work.” NO NO NO. That’s not a decision that’s called settling and being indecisive. Write SOMETHING down until you have a strict and stable decision made. Don’t forget: what you want in life can change, but be VERY clear on how and what is changing and adjust your strategy accordingly.

Remember, switching to a freelance job or finding a new career is WAY easier when you already have a job paying the bills. It doesn’t have to be some high status job, you could bus tables, just keep yourself floating while you take the time to figure out what it is that you really want. You might have to spend nights working long after you get off work to accomplish this, but it’s truly worth it. (Just grab a glass of wine and make it fun.) Use websites like Upwork.com and send 100 proposals until you get a response. Find out what you’re good at and market it properly. Eventually, (probably sooner than you think) you’ll get a request for an interview and you’re off to the races.

My final advice: take your time. If you hop into a job that you didn’t truly take ample nights to consider, but one that sounded good from a distance, you’ll be right back where you were before. Don’t be afraid to take a lower salary (or hourly rate) initially. Get another job to balance out your finances for the time being. Also, don’t be too proud to hustle. I have worked a total of 13 jobs in the past 6 months, all while having an (highly demanding) full time job.

>> NOW GET STARTED. Here’s a link to help you begin researching YOU, to further help you learn what you want: Click Me

T.

 

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12 steps to finding out what you really want

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Below are Tony Robbins steps finding out what you really want, as illustrated in his book: Unlimited Power.

How do you figure out what your dreams and goals are? What if you’ve never truly thought about what you want? Tony Robbins breaks down exactly how to begin your personal research for ultimate results.

All goals should follow these five rules:

  1. State your outcome in positive terms: say what you want to happen not the other way around.
  2. Be as specific as possible: How does your outcome look, sound, feel, smell? Sensory thoughts empower your brain to create desire.
  3. Have an evidence procedure: Know how you will look, feel, see and hear when you’ve achieved your goal.
  4. Be in control: the positive outcome must be independent from other people’s behavior.
  5. Verify that your outcome is ecologically sound and desirable: your outcomes must benefit you and other people.

Robbins’ path to learn what you truly want and to take MASSIVE action:

  1. Start by making an inventory of your dreams, the things you want to have, do, be and share.
  2. Go over the list you made, estimating when you expect to reach those outcomes.
  3. Pick out the four most important goals for you for this year.
  4. Now that you have a list of your key goals, review them against the five rules for formulating outcomes.
  5. Next, make a list of the important resources you already have at your disposal.
  6. When you’ve done that, focus in on times you used some of those resources most skillfully.
  7. After you’ve done all that, describe the kind of person you would have to be to attain your goals.
  8. Next, in a few paragraphs, write down what prevents you from having the things you desire right now.
  9. Take the time now to take each of your four key goals and create your first draft of a step-by-step plan on how to achieve them.
  10. Come up with some models. (They can be people from your own life or famous people who you’ve admired for their success.)
  11. Now create your ideal day. (Describe the day from waking-up in the morning to climbing into bed at the end of the best possible day).
  12. Finally, design your perfect environment. (Describe the perfect conditions, place, people, support etc. without any limitations).

Use these steps as a resource to finding what it is that you truly want. GO!

T.

The equation of expectation

“Whenever you are happy with something in your life, it is because right now, the conditions of your life match your blueprint, or your belief about how life should be in that particular area.” – Tony Robbins

 

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Me: living my best life during the time I had my dream job (which I thought would last forever.)

In our culture, we are taught that we are not good enough unless we do something mind-blowing and unique. It’s pounded into our brains every day, with social media and even our own self-inflicted pressure to be the best, do the most and do it perfectly. (My assumption was that I’d land my dream job at about 28 and be set for life. Well I landed my dream job way earlier than expected and then my dream job contract ended.)

As you might know by now, Tony Robbins IS MY GUY. His optimism cuts the strings of doubt that I can feel tied down by.

This week, I’ve been focusing on one specific concept:

“Growing and giving are the basis of human happiness.”

Truthfully, this seems way too simple. For longest time, I added about 10-15 different items in that sentence.

“Growing, giving, health, great relationships, phat career, ample creativity, positive environment, traveling often, loving my family…. are the basis of my happiness.”

That’s just the BASE of my overall happiness. The additions kept growing and before I knew it, it was almost impossible to stay happy. I mean look at that list?! How was I to keep 8+ items in a good and flourishing place at ALL TIMES? I had expectations for each of those categories… huge expectations. Those expectations kept me propelling forward at 100 mph with little patience, a feeling of being flooded with disappointment when I didn’t accomplish something, angry with my significant other all the time, hard on myself when I’d miss a workout and comparing myself to everyone else in my lane.

What I’ve come to understand, is that we have a particular blueprint we’ve developed for our lives. This is the image we’ve had in our heads of where we’d be at every stage, in every different category of life: career, relationships, income, lifestyle, health.

What I’ve quickly learned, is that misery is born when we veer off the path of this imagined blueprint, or when we don’t live up to the expectation of our life. If you’re not in the job you imagined you’d be in, if your body doesn’t look or feel the way you thought it would, or if you’re not dating the type of person you always thought you’d be dating, all those expectations are shattered and you feel like sh**.

What is at the root of all this? OUR EXPECTATIONS.

Think about when we intentionally have zero expectations. We go into some situations with the awareness,

“No, I’m not having expectations for this movie because I don’t want to be disappointed.”

HELLO… we know this is something we deal with but for some reason we can step back and apply it to our day to day life. So, because I’m a math nerd I’ve put this in an equation to help further simplify it.

Growing (in any capacity/direction) + giving (caring for others, working toward your bigger purpose) – Expectations = Lasting happiness 

Here’s a question for you. Think of the happiest times in your life. Did you know they were going to happen? Doubtful. The truth is, you never know what will end up making you happy until it subtly creeps on you. Relax and let it happen!

What are you expecting for your life? Have you fulfilled those expectations? Where are they rooted? Great. Now remove them. Release them into the air. Let go of the 300-pound pile of expectation that you’ve been living with and watch your world transform.

In case you’re in need of some more inspiration, a book that has changed the way I see success in this crazy world is The Originals by Adam Grant. This book will keep you growing.

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Comment below with your thoughts. I love hearing just how we all relate to one another, or not!

T.

Emotions aren’t the boss

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Yep, we can choose the way we feel by analyzing the thoughts we have. Emotions and the thoughts that create them are a physical aspect of our bodies, not untamed territory. Something I like to discuss in my yoga classes is that we don’t have to feel what our body is telling us to feel. Our emotions don’t control what we think. WE CONTROL WHAT WE THINK.

Tony Robbins is one of my favorite life coaches because he explains this concept in a very simple way: the thoughts we have are ours alone and sometimes… they may be inaccurate. This word is what fuels this blog today: inaccurate.

If you are easily angered, or having constant thoughts of negativity, then maybe it’s time to step back and think logically about why you are experiencing these certain emotions.

Many times, we can break down our thoughts into sections, or causes and effects to determine how we want to move forward. Changing the thought patterns you’ve developed over the years can help set you on a completely different emotional path. For instance choosing NOT to fight with your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend for a week. Try this: intentionally choose to shut off the quick-to-snap reactions or habits you’ve nurtured and watch your day to day experience change. Watch your relationship improve! Rather than let loose and remove all intention behind your thoughts, set boundaries. Thoughts manifest themselves into action/lack of action and become reality -don’t let your emotional habits determine in what direction your day will go.

 

Hold tight to your thoughts and you will begin to understand the control you truly have. Be intentional and monitor your thoughts like you’re studying for a college final exam. You’re the experiment, not the victim.

 

Questions to ask yourself: 

1. How do I feel right now? Be very specific.
2. What caused me to feel this way? Don’t simply blame it on something or someone external.
3. How long do I want to feel this way for? It’s important to allow yourself to soak up the emotion, just don’t let it overtake you.
4. What is it that I’m forgetting to be grateful for in this moment? Gratitude heals the heart and gives us the power of perspective.
5. Will I laugh about this later? Laughter cures anger better than almost everything.

 

Last Tony quote I’ll leave you with: “It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you communicate what happens to yourself.” 

T.

 

5 Rules for establishing a healthy (and abundant) career path

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Have you ever felt yourself stressing out about finances, your current career path or your professional value? Do those things make you instantly feel lost?

Perhaps you’re shifting careers, trying to decide what industry to break into, or simply trying to get your foot in the door ANYWHERE you can.

Regardless of where you are, I’ve developed 5 rules for creating career peace of mind that will pull you out of a career crisis. As a professional who’s worked in corporate, freelance and remote environments, and who’s experienced almost every up and down possible in a short period of time, these 5 rules keep me moving forward, thinking positively and ultimately successful no matter what I do! They introduce the routines necessary to find ease in the trajectory of your career.

 

1. Keep planting seeds

OK – I’m not talking about a real garden here. What I mean is to continually plant seeds in your professional garden. This includes expanding your professional network, following industry trends and job postings, growing your “extra curricular” activities and perfecting your unpaid creative endeavors.

Most opportunities won’t come from blind online applications, they’ll come from the people you’ve met and talked to in person or the passions you’ve perfected. The more you create, the higher chances of success you’ll have. Finally – always imply that you have time for new opportunities when talking to friends and family. Next time someone thinks of a recommendation, they might think of you!

 

2. Develop career grit 

Be ruthless. I’m serious about this one. Whether you’re in a full-time, part-time or freelance position, don’t allow yourself to accept laziness in the workplace. Give your your projects and your team the energy, focus and attention they need. Trade in softness for authority, maintain your personal voice and hold your team accountable. It’s vital to conquer your own limits and extend past what you believe you can accomplish, which sometimes relies upon others.

Either you’ll be someone who complains at work and finds excuses to stay home or you’ll be promoted based on your work ethic, leadership and unyielding enthusiasm. Be better than the complainers, stay committed and be the BEST at what you do. It’s as simple as that.

 

3. Give yourself more time

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Time is something difficult to accept when you’re starting a new position or career. You think to yourself, “I can’t afford to be paid this little. I need to be earning what that guy is earning and NOW.” The truth is, if you’re first starting your career or even beginning a new position, sometimes you’re going to take home less cash than you want to.

To earn more money, you need to prove you have a backbone in business. Honestly acknowledge your work experience and remember that you’ll have to prove to your future employers (and yourself) the value you provide. Give yourself more time. Don’t rush, you’ll end up doing something you hate. If you need money right away, start an investment fund and watch your dollar bills do the work for you.

 

4. Hold on to the triumphs 

Sometimes we have brief moments of spectacular recognition and then before you know it you’re back to the drawing board, looking for your next big gig. What your parents often forget to tell you, is that your career should be a marathon, not a sprint. Small and large victories will be followed by epic failures. This will go on and on until you retire and then it will become personal successes and failures. This is what life is. If you’re expecting to get your dream job and then watch everything fall into place and see money fill your bank account forever, you’ve been fooled.

Jobs end, gig’s end, people forget what you’ve done and your career “fame” can plummet to the ground. Even the most successful people in the world have “made it,” and then they fall flat again…or the market crashes, or your company falls apart. So hold onto the small advances you make in your career, but put them down when it’s time and find your next adventure with humility. Don’t hold onto that one big job you had or that higher salary you acquired for a previous position. You’ll have an epic journey regardless, just keep conquering your own expectations and find optimism for what awaits you!

5. Don’t EVER compare 

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Comparison is the true thief of joy. In our Social Media worlds, we compare now more than ever before and therefore hold ourselves in contempt for not being as epic as someone else. But how will you ever understand your truth and your strengths if they can’t even accurately challenge someone else’s? What you see ISN’T what you get. There will always be someone better than you and there will always be someone worse off than you, no matter what. You’ll never be able to see yourself in the honest glory that you are if you constantly repeat to yourself,

“I don’t have that,” “I don’t look like that,” “I can’t travel like him,” “They got promoted and I didn’t,” “They make way more money than I do,” “How are they getting paid for drinking a smoothie?”

Your path is completely different from everyone else’s. I know it’s easier said than done, but if you expect your track to perfectly align with someone else’s, you’re not setting yourself up to win. Allow yourself a unique, healthy and abundant journey from start to finish. Forego badgering harmful thoughts into your head. Get off Social Media and read an inspirational book. Do more of what makes you truly happy and use it to find a work-life balance. Find gratitude no matter how difficult it may seem and remember that this chapter won’t last forever. You’re always on to bigger and better things.

If you want to read more about what you truly have to offer, read The Originals by Adam Grant.

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This book will prove to you why the most successful people you’ve ever heard of, weren’t born with some magical gene that transcended them into fame and fortune. They were just like you and me.

Comment below with your own story! Have questions? Comment!

T.